Tips to cope after a gynae appointmet. No woman looks forward to a consultation with her gynaecologist. Especially if you are living with endometriosis and pcos. This would mean countless more gynae appointments than the average female. i am living with these two conditions for more than 16 years now. you can read my story here.
Unless you yourself, or if you know someone close to you who is living with these debilitating lifelong illnesses you may think- what is the fuss about? A gynae appointment can’t be that bad? I suggest that you do read along, you never know when you might be able to help a friend, colleague, girlfriend or sister after her difficult gynae appointment.
For many women with endo or pcos these appointments may result in a theatre bookings, or treatment that could be expensive or have many side effects. Apart from the awkward examination, talking about your symptoms and explaining your history can be draining and traumatic – it is difficult to relive past surgeries and treatments. For many women this can be traumatic in more ways than one.
Tension may start building from the week before your gynae appointment If you live with a chronic gynaecological condition. You become nervous. What is the doctor going to say? Will there be a suitable treatment available? How much will it cost? I can’t get my hopes up too much – in finding relief- because in case all treatment options have been exhausted. You are not being melodramatic! These are all valid concerns. I am here to say that I hear you. I have been through this many times and have therefore decided to compile this list of tips.
GYNAE CONSULTATION TIPS
- Before your gynae appointment write a list of how far you have come. Having a doctor refresh your memory of every surgery and explain your history is not pleasant. it can bring back all those feelings and make you relive them – leaving you feeling drained and depressed. When you get home after your appointment read this list and know that you shall overcome this(what was discussed during the appointment) too.
- Know that you know your body better than any doctor with a specialist degree – no matter how many years experience he/she may have.
- Go out for a cup of coffee or a small walk before heading home. Having time to process what was said during the appointment.
- Ask your husband, boyfriend or friend to have a shot of whisky ready for you when you get home after your gynae appointment. If you saw a male gynae you deserve another shot! Male gynaes are way more intense. And hello why are we paying them to look at our lady bits? They should be paying us!
- Say affirmations. My favorite one for when life is troubled is by Louise L. Hay ‘’’I am safe. All is well.’’ This really helps me get out of a downward spiral of negative thoughts.
- Look for alternate therapies to help your condition. If something has worked for you previously maybe try it again. Adjunctive therapies like yoga, pelvic physiotherapy and acupuncture may be worth considering. Remember to discuss natural remedies with your doctor. Not all natural remedies may be safe for you.
- Remember you are worthy. You are enough.
We will leave the receptionists for another post
No matter what the outcome of your appointment know that you will be okay. You shall overcome. Have faith that this too shall pass.
Women have been dismissed by doctors for far too long! They say that the pain is in our head. It’s normal to have a bad period. I am here to say that enough is enough. Let’s take ownership of our health. Don’t give any doctor power over your health. You know what is best for you. You have a right to make an informed decision and not be strong armed into surgery on a treatment that doesn’t suit you.
I wish I knew these tips earlier. I hope that you find the following tips helpful and that you are able to bounce back quickly after your gynae appointment.
Do you experience something similar when you visit the gynae? Do you have pcos or endo? Are you left feeling hopeless and disillusioned like me? Please comment. I would love to hear your story.
DISCLAIMER: This is not meant to speak ill of doctors or gynaecologists. There are many doctors who are doing good work.
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